We are defaulting on our home loans more than ever, while simultaneously defaulting less on our credit cards. What's wrong with this picture? Credit card collectors are so aggressive that even if you're one minute late, they're all over you like a cheap suit. They know there's nothing they can really do to you, so instead they use bully psychology to force you into paying up. Contrast that approach with the one taken by your mortgage lender. If you're late on your home payment, they're very non-confrontational. Why? Because they can actually take your house away!!
Human nature dictates that people will pay the person who screams the loudest. But that's the wrong approach. Instead, try thinking about your finances like you would a triage room at a hospital: the doctor sees who has a life-threatening sickness and immediately treats that person. Similarly, it's important to prioritize your monthly bills. Your mortgage should always come first, followed by your transportation bill or car loan -- so you can get to work and keep earning! Try dropping your credit card debt lower on your list of monthly payments. People immediately say, "Well, I'll ruin my credit if I do that." But if you don't have enough money to pay your mortgage, chances are your credit is already being messed up. On a related note, many folks think you can just tell a credit-card collection agency not to call you. Unfortunately there's a special loophole in the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act that the banks got written in. It states that if the collector is an employee of the bank, he or she is exempt from many of the regulations. So they can continue to hound you day and night. If you're getting threatening phone calls where collectors are cussing you out, try taping it. Then bring the tape to your nearest TV station and they'll be more than happy to put the bank on the hot seat.